We experience seasons of our lives. In fact, our lives are
centered around the undeniable fact that we will continually be facing
different seasons. Whether it be the change in weather, literally, or the
broader change, of a certain time period of our lives, seasons will come and
seasons will go.
While sitting around the table at Thanksgiving with family,
I heard the word ‘first’ used in so many contexts and settings that it set my
mind wandering on the notion of firsts. We talked about ‘first Christmas as a
married couple’, and ‘setting up the first Christmas tree’. We talked about new
parents experiencing so many firsts with their child, first smile, first word,
first step- and the joy that comes with each new feat. We heard memories of the
‘firsts’ others had experienced together, and I shared what I was excited to
experience in our first year of marriage. Our hearts filled with joy, as we
each thought fondly of the first we had experienced, and the firsts we had yet
to experience in our lives. There is something special, and different, and
utterly joyful about experiencing something that you have not yet experienced
before. About completing something, or embarking on something, or doing
something that is completely new. I have a coffee table book that states it
this way:
"love new things… The firsts go away- first love, first
baby, first kiss. You have to create new ones."
and how terribly true that is. A person embarking on their
life journey will inevitably hit a point where they have no firsts left to
experience, unless of course, they create their own- new firsts. I find it so
exciting that Rob and I (God willing) have a lot of firsts ahead of us in our
lives, and as I think about each one, my stomach literally fills with
butterflies. These are the beautiful moments that take our breath away, and leave
us longing for the next.
However, in the midst of all the laughter, and smiles and
memories of first together- a knot quickly built in my throat when I over-heard
yet another conversation about firsts. These seasons of life we experience
bless us with so many beautiful firsts, that we sometimes forget the firsts
that are gut-wrenching, painful, bitter.
I sat across the table, and examined the face of a man who
will experience a whole new set of firsts. November 9th marked the first time
in 61 years that he had celebrated an anniversary- alone. November 28th marked
the first time in 63 years that he had celebrated a Thanksgiving- alone.
December 25th will mark the first time in 64 years that he will celebrate
Christmas- alone. And on January 3rd, he will blow out 80 candles- without the
love of his life beside him. Rob’s Grandma was taken from this world, all too
soon, in March of last year, and the bitter reality of first experiences
without her have been a season of life that have been painful for all who were
blessed to experience her joy and zest for life- but especially for the one who
called himself her husband for 60 amazingly beautiful years. 60 years ago, they
were blessed to begin the experience of an abundance of firsts together as
husband and wife, and 60 years later in the same year as Rob and I get the
beautiful and amazing opportunity to embark on that same journey of firsts
together, he is embarking on another journey of firsts- alone.
Seasons of our lives paralleling so bitterly perfect.
As we walk through this journey of life, whether by
another’s side, or on our own, let us not forget about all the first
experiences God has blessed us with, and all the first experiences that are yet
to come. And let our hearts be filled with such joy at the firsts of life, that
when it comes time for the painful, bitter season of firsts (whether without
our spouse, our parents, or our children) that we have such an abundance of
beautiful memories to hold onto and cherish, that we can approach that season
of firsts with a certain hope and joy that surpasses even our own
understanding.
Breathe in, breathe out… The world keeps spinning.
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